Okay, moms, remember when you were pregnant and somewhat uncomfortable and/or unhappy, and someone went and said something and immediately needed to take their foot out of their mouth? Whether the person is a stranger or your own mother, people have said some pretty stupid things to pregnant women. Here’s our list of what not to say to a pregnant woman.
- Are you having twins?
- You’re definitely having a girl, it’s all in your ass. Another variation of this is You can tell by your face you are having a girl, referencing the old wives tale that when you are pregnant with a girl, she steals your beauty. Hot tip: don’t ever call a pregnant woman ugly, either directly or indirectly – it will get uncomfortable, fast.
- You must be due any day. Every woman’s bellow grows at a different rate – some gain weight right away and others only at the very end. Either way, telling a woman she looks like she is seconds away from giving birth is an awful gaffe if she is only in her third or fourth month!
- Are you done yet? Seriously, it’s no one’s business how many kids someone is going to have.
- I only gained 10 pounds when I was pregnant – how much have you gained? You don’t want to be standing there picking up the pieces when she gives you an answer which is definitely larger than your 10.
- Oh, I don’t like that name. Guess what? Not your choice what anyone else names their kid. There’s always a chance that if you respond with “Ugh” to a name your friend winds up using, every time she sees you, she’ll remember you hate her kids name.
- Come here and let me touch that belly! No one wants anyone’s hands on their belly, especially a stranger. And another no-no, is something that our Parent Panelist Debbi heard from an older woman when she was pregnant – I need to rub your belly for luck before I hit the Bingo Hall. Definitely cringe-worthy.
- Any variation of a nickname like preggo or preggers. It’s just plain annoying.
- When I was pregnant….. No pregnant woman wants to hear the woes of your morning sickness, delivery mishaps, epidural not working, doctor not showing up or your friend dying during childbirth. Save these stories for after your friend has her baby and has war stories of her own.
- Get ready to never sleep again. When you’re pregnant, especailly with your first, you never know exactly what you’re in for. Don’t tell your pregnant friend how your child was up every half hour and slept with you for the first three years of their life.
Facts are that we all have different pregnancies and we all parent those babies differently. Friends are great sounding boards but in this situation, it’s sometimes better to just smile and nod.
Did we miss anything that’s on your list of what not to say to a pregnant woman? What was the worst thing someone said to you during your pregnancy?